Why do so many of our black Queens lack Kings

Why do so many of our black Queens lack Kings? There is an epidemic of single black women that is threatening to the future of black people in this nation. What is it about the black women, the most beautiful of her gender, which has lead to so many of them being lonely and without a husband or mate?

Many women say that it is a supply problem. They say that there are simply not enough black males in the mating pool to choose from, due to incarceration, interracial dating and homosexual leanings. I certainly cannot argue against those points. However, there is a demand side problem as well. That problem is rooted in the black female often becoming educated and finding success in the corporate world at a rate disproportional to black men and thus filtering the pool.

These educated black women are still compelled by tradition to look for a superior provider in the black male. Their standards are thus set higher from the benchmark of what they can provide for themselves as a single woman off their own career and income. Thus, this eliminates many otherwise “good men” from the pool simply because of incomes or careers not superior or commiserate with these educated and successful black females. Hence, many black women are turning their back on "moraly good" black men in their attempts to chase the elite economic black males. This is because women are conditioned by society and tradition to “date up” and not “down”.

What is not often introduced in the discussion of why so many black women are single is the empirical truth that marriage has always been maintained by the glue of dependency in a Patriarchal social construct, as much as tradition. Women, in such a construct, were dependent upon the men because of the combination of power, protection and provisions. Thus, in order for women to be protected and to have provisions for survival, she needed to have a man during our social evolution. Over time, this evolved into gender roles or expectations, that women are no longer constrained by.

Today, due to the summation of our history under white supremacy in the West, black men have relatively little power, ability to protect or the ability to provide, to a degree greater than the black women can do. In other words, the black males have been emasculated by the system. As I noted earlier, women are socially conditioned to “select up” and not “select down”, which is a biological evolutionary predisposition. It is called “natural selection” in which the strong get favored in the mating selection choices and thus those traits are rewarded more and passed on thus making the descendants stronger. Hence, a black woman “dating down” goes against evolutionary biological programming…thus, many remain single waiting for the strong alpha male.

In any population group where the females have power equal or greater than the men, you will see a much higher prevalence of single women. Contrary to popular belief, dependencies and roles have kept marriage strong as much as tradition. However, dependencies often lead to abuses and men have often taken advantage of these dependencies. Women are less likely to put up with such abuses and transgression when they can provide for themselves.

For those looking for me to provide a solution that benefits all…I cannot. The nature of existence is that all actions have tradeoffs. I do not think that the black woman is willing to give up her ability to provide in order that they may be dependent upon black males and thus increase marriage rates. I also do not believe whites will voluntarily dismantle the system of white supremacy which would allow black males to reach their natural equilibrium and not have to live under a system the priveleges white males.

Our problems will not be solved as a people while living in the West.